How Do You Know You Are Dating A Dismissive Avoidant?

There were no clear signs he was

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Honestly, there were no warning signs. I wish I could say there were and I choose to ignore them. There weren’t.

He was wonderful from the get-go. For the first three years of our relationship, I was happy and satisfied. I felt safe. He was everything I was looking for and I believed, strongly, that our relationship was wonderful. I smugly looked at other couples and thought we were rock solid in comparison.

Gosh, I have never been more wrong.

Everything felt so right in our relationship. We started dating and after three months were living together. I never felt uncertain or unsure of him or his place in my life. He was the textbook perfect guy. He was kind to animals, and waiters. He was lovely to my family and friends. He was committed to me and the relationship. He met my family after one week.

One week!

I met his two months later. I met his friends after about one month and he met mine. They all loved him, by the way. Adored him. Everyone I introduced him to said how lovely he was and it was clear that he adored and loved me.

No one had anything bad to say about him. There were no signs he could be cold, unkind and avoidant of all emotion and…